Platonic Situationships: New Perspectives Guide to Creating a ‘Friend With Benefit’

Platonic Situationships

Many of us wanted to be friends with benefits, but, not many of us know how to do it correctly. One must learn to have certain traits that will help them steward a beautifully complex plutonic friendship with no emotional strings attached. 

To begin with, there are three beginner’s guide traits one must have to be a creator of a stringless puppet. 

1. One must be a scouter of emotionally driven individuals.
2. One must be a master in the art of finding common ground 

 

(Note from author: manipulating the situation creating a false vibe making a puppet feel like their emotional drivenness is safe with you-thus, so is their investment of time in you when in fact is false) 

 1. One must be a master of mood set.

(Note from author:  setting the tone through emotional changes leading to manipulation of the atmosphere. This can be applied to both males and females- no sex is exempt)

Let us expound

You must WOW them: Find Victim with Common Ground

When you are in need of a stringless puppet, you must look for those who already are stringless puppets.

Scripture reference: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord” -Proverbs 18:22

As the Bible illustrates, it does not say He who finds a “woman” or a “worker” or a “chill individual”, it says one must be a wife- or in resemblance of a wife already before she can be found. Similarly copied into the Kingdom of Hell must one look like something (have some ground of familiarity) to be approached with a vacant roll to fill. 

Now, must you really want your future to go “BOOM! *up in smoke” simply because you let someone objectify you? Heavens no. So why objectify the object before you have properly researched it’s potential to be bound?

You must find an object who already has the traits of one who is what you want already; never go into this trying to create your own puppet. You lose luster and stamina going that route. You must let your spirit lead you to the spirit who has the most familiarity with the type you know you are and the type of background/ personality you know your protege is. You must lead into the finesse. (Definition of protege: “a person who is guided and supported by an older and more experienced person”)

2. You Must Scout Their Emotional Intelligence

Look for one who is emotionally drunken. A dreamer who has ambitions of being in a relationship past their experience or willingness to process to become the person they are requiring someone else to be. 

There are a few keywords you can look for out of simple conversation: 

Listen to them carefully for context clues that insist that they are already pruned to your stringless environment. 

Phrases:

“Next time around I want things to be different.”

This empties that they feel they are not at fault of anything and that they are unwilling to process to the level they are seeking. 

Or 

“I miss the way this felt”

“I used to be out there now I’m waiting for the right person”

And then you insert yourself as the puzzle piece they’ve always been missing by countering phrases like this all with “Ive never experienced anything like this before” , “you’re always welcomed here”, “I love spending time with you” and “no matter what this is, you have a special place in my heart.

You must counter with such phrases to make sure you are creating an emotional bond that creates the unseen strings you need to make the puppet walk and talk. 

(Sidebar tip: Responses are better sent through text message- that way your recipient can re-read your response and experience similar heightened emotional intensities at their convenience. Versus just experiencing it once with a verbal responses. Also, it aids as insurance: you can always go back and say “but, I’ve never said that to you out of my mouth tho.” Also, make sure y’all got something in common:)

Categories that are easy and general:

-parental figures

-race

-sexuality

-talents

-religion

-music

-literature

-shared family values

This will instill the trust factor needed to solidify the emotional bondage.

PS: Shared family values will instill a longevity in the trust and an assumption that because you value the family circuit (functional and dysfunctional) that you must desire one with the protige and that the protige must wait tactfully for the self-assumed prophecy to fulfill itself. 

3. Mood Setters

You must simply accept then mood before one can completely reluctantly accept the position of protégée after the initial interviewing process. 

First, set trust. Then execute the processing of background check and paperwork- the most expensive process due to it being a strained investment on your own time. You may have to spend a few sleepless nights and give a few calls but it will all be worth it at the end.

Actually, this is an essential process to take before setting the mood. You must become as humane as possible- relate to the subordinate, emotionally connect with the subordinate, to make them have pity on you when you release a mood setter. The New Perspective definition of a mood setter is “creating an external conflict that can seem to others of a changed internal emotion toward them.” But here at New Perspectives, we do not use such harsh and objectifying language.

It is essential that you have the skill to turn your happiness on and off like a light switch in order to receive a reaction of the potential subordinate to become submissive through the catering nature most have to the needs of others.

 Once they receive a reaction they never thought they would be-either extreme happiness or extreme depression or anger- (which in fact we all know is false) they will manage themselves to adapt to the environment that may seem toxic only when they are hit with extreme conflict. 

If their reaction is mild and they do not react with a proper adaptation, you can try a different method of scenario -may one much harsher-but since this goal lacks a commitment relation, one must remember to not give too much-you want to come off as the one who they always can talk to who is sometimes human and has faults-but can be trusted-versus the one they can talk to somethings/never (who is always faulting to the point of self blame and unhappiness.

Their unhappiness must be chosen by themselves-no need to press it-the job ain’t for everyone. Those who were groomed in this type of environment are more reactive and submissive them those who were not. Let them choose to serve you. Let them choose to make you happy. The more choice they think they have in this companionship, the more they will choose your “suggestions” for them. They have no choice-they just think they do. 

Don’t do this if you are healed. You must not be healed. You must do this in the mind frame that there are people out here that hurt you and you must protect yourself by placing yourself in control. You must have just came out of a life-change or relationship change that took your control over your life away and immediately you will know that you are in the proper posture to embark upon the journey of becoming a sugar recipient-friend with benefit and you will be equally, if not more powerful than the over-critical abuser that cheated in you, harmed you and broke your heart. You have the control!

So, Trust The Process.

Remember, your opportunity is available because one person didn’t submit to the process. Trust the process in this. Of you want a long-termed friendship with benefits, you should be prepared to invest years worth of time grooming your protege, establishing trust, and a bond that may seem to never be broken. When he/she finally gives up what you want you will pull the strings and have  complete control over their mind, body and soul. Thus, you will finally get what you want with no strings attached and they will get a lasting mirage that you may love them enough to marry them one day if they keep being faithful to the job of being a broken friend.